Rowyn’s first friend….. is leaving

Rowyn has made a friend. A real honest true friend. She plays with her every day at school. They hold hands and skip around the gym or take turns pulling each other in the wagon. Every morning Rowyn asks for her friend on the way to school. “Lara, Lara, Lara” she sings. Lara’s cubby is next to Rowyn’s and she always notices her “oat” (coat) and say “Lara oat Mama!” Rowyn and Lara are also potty friends. They go and sit together on the potty. This has really helped Rowyn get more comfortable with the potty.

How am I going to explain to her that Lara is leaving and going to another school – tomorrow? Will she understand? How much should I explain? Have I prepared her enough? Have I made too much of a big deal about her friendship with her? Will she be sad? All relevant questions but none that I have the answers to.


We made a little card for Lara last night as well. Rowyn drew Lara a picture and I put a little message on there with a pic of Rowyn that I took. I said we were making a card for Lara because she’s going bye-bye. I’ve been talking to Rowyn and saying that Lara’s only going to be at school for two more days. This morning I said that tomorrow is her last day and Lara will be going to a new school and she’ll go bye-bye. Rowyn seems very unaffected so far. Not that I really expected her to “get it”. I can only hope that Rowyn won’t keep asking for Lara for weeks and weeks and be disappointed. She won’t be the last friend to leave or move out of Rowyn’s life but does it have to be her first friend?